The next time you sit down to dinner with your family to enjoy a delicious entree with a side of fresh vegetables, you may want to think about the hard work and sacrifice that it took to get that food from the farm to your table. For us, it’s a quick trip to the supermarket, but for those growing the crops, it’s backbreaking work and many missed precious moments with their loved ones.
Recently, mom and wife Katie Spence Pugh shared a beautiful story about what daily life is like for her as a farmer’s wife. Katie’s husband, Eugene, is a fourth-generation farmer whose job keeps him busy from sun up till sun down, seven days a week.
She and their three beautiful kids spend the majority of time together since their dad is often working. Every now and then, but especially during planting and harvest season, Katie admits that she begins to resent her husband for not being there to share the responsibilities.
So she sent him a text letting him know how she really felt, even though she knew it wouldn’t change things. “I wanted him to know that I was feeling fed up with how much he works and with all that I have to do everyday by myself,” Katie wrote. “The full time job, cooking dinner, bathing kids, weekend trips without him, keeping up a home, you name it I was resenting it.”
After she’d sent him the message, Eugene walked in from a long day’s work, fixed himself a plate to eat and sat down by himself. “He was tired. He was hot. He was exhausted,” she said.
Instead of complaining about how he was feeling, he sympathized with her for feeling exhausted and frustrated. Then the couple’s daughter, Charlotte, jumped up on the counter and began to chatter endlessly while eating most of his dinner.
It was in this moment, that Katie realized her husband is doing all he can to provide for and spend time with their precious family, using every ounce of strength and energy he has.
“He didn’t complain. He shared, and it hit me. Do I wish that we saw him more than an hour or so a day? Yes. But, the love he has for his craft is something to envy. Farmers work in a thankless profession.”
At that very moment, Katie understood why her husband couldn’t be home more often and as her self-pity melted away, she began to fill up with gratitude. She took out her phone and captured this sweet moment of a tired father sharing his meal with his little girl.
She wrote: “This is a man who is working to uphold 4 generations of blood sweat and tears and showing his children the value of hard work and discipline. So while I felt frustrated, I really should have felt thankful.
“I got to sit down to dinner and hear all the stories from the day with the kids. I got to give them a bath and hear their squeals and giggles. I got to snuggle and love on them for 3 hours more than he did. He is the one sacrificing, not me.”
Katie’s post concluded with a completely different tone, one of showing her husband the same commitment he has shown her and the kids. Then she added, “The next time you slip into that comfy cotton shirt or eat delicious farm fresh food, thank a farmer. Where would we be without them?”
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